Category Archives: Grief

Six Months

Six months.  My wonderful, brilliant, talented husband has been dead for six months. The death certificate deemed it an “intra-oral gunshot wound”.   Simply put, he killed himself. Someone just commented on a blog that he would never suicide because … Continue reading

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Tuesday, March 21st Support Group Canceled

  The Tuesday night support group will not meet again this week.  The facilitator is still ill with pneumonia.  It’s our hope that we’ll be back up and running on Saturday evening for that group. Thank you for your understanding. … Continue reading

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If You Have Suicidal Thoughts…

To my friends, acquaintances, and anyone out there who is fighting suicidal thoughts… Please, please talk to someone.  Get help. Talk therapy.  Medications.  Physical therapy.  Rehab.  Whatever it takes. Do it. I know you don’t know how to formulate the … Continue reading

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Throwing Out the Dead Flowers

  I just now finally threw out the floral arrangements left over from John’s Celebration of Life here at the house…. I hadn’t moved them in the past 2.5 months; they just sat where they’d been placed and slowly dried … Continue reading

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Coming Out of My Bedroom

After John first died, and after all the flow of visitors stopped dropping in, and after my daughter went back home to California (nearly a month later), I pretty much holed up in what was our bedroom. My big house (9 … Continue reading

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Warrior Project – Suicide Survivors Grief Group, 01/03/2017

Suicide Survivors Grief Group – We welcome those who have recently lost someone to suicide, or those who are still feeling the impact even years later. It is a place to share your grief and learn how to live again … Continue reading

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The Gray Area of Being Suicidal

The following blog from The Mighty (https://themighty.com) describes the passive, habitual, long-term suicidality that too many people live with.  The thoughts are always there, lurking in the background.  If something negative happens, no matter how minor it is, the immediate … Continue reading

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Choices

I’m a member of several support groups on Facebook for those of us grieving the loss of a spouse, child, parent, or other loved one to suicide. Too many of the members question “Why? Why did s/he do it?”  Some … Continue reading

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Today is Christmas – And It Sucks

  ********************************************** In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sep 1956 – 21 Oct 2016. The Warrior Project will be a warm, welcoming drop-in center for those living with extreme emotional and/or physical pain coupled with hopelessness, and … Continue reading

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What If I Came Back and You Had Remarried?

  About 10 years ago, John and I were talking about random stuff… lovers’ talk.  The kinds of things one says when you’re having those completely giddy, head-over-heels feelings one gets at times when you’re so in love you can barely … Continue reading

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