Recent Articles Reposted on Our Facebook Group

The more we can learn about suicide and the factors that lead to attempts and completions, the more likely we will be to save lives – lives such as that of the most important man in the world to me, my husband, John Snyder.

I’ve periodically posted such articles and blogs on our Facebook group, “The [Grief] Warrior Project“, rather than including them on this website.

Please ask to join that group, and invite your friends to join.

The group is pretty small right now and I’d like to grow it as a way of providing information about suicide, depression & anxiety, and hopelessness, as well as letting people know about the various support groups and classes we’re offering while working on creating the drop-in center that I’ve slowly been working on since John died almost two years ago.

As you can see, my dogs hang out with me in The Lifeboat Room at times.

Anyway, here are some of the most recent blogs published on that group.  I would love it if you were to post relevant articles or initiate topics of conversation, or even just “Like” what we’ve posted.  Thanks!

  1. 5 Common Myths about Suicide Debunked
  2. When You Forget They’re Dead
  3. A Brief Guide to Unprocessed Childhood Toxic Shame
  4. 9 Things That Will Help You Relax
  5. Update: Suicide Prevention Week Follow-Up

I’ll try to do a weekly compilation of the outside articles in case you’ve missed them.

Songs of peace, health and wellness to you all.

Linda

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Teens: Dealing with Stress / Anxiety – Beginning October 03, 2018

Someone asked recently if we would be doing workshops on anxiety for teens.  It was a great question, especially given the world we live in today, and how it affects our impressionable youth population.

Anxiety can lead to a host of problems from sleep disturbances, social changes, poor school performance and physical health issues, among others.  Learning how to handle anxiety early will, of course, lead to better outcomes for the future.

Our anxiety / stress management classes are not therapy groups.  They are a time to discuss how anxiety affects our lives and practice some techniques for managing our feelings, while getting support from others who are coping with similar feelings.

There is a $15.00 fee per class to cover the cost of materials and help support The Grief Warrior Project. Payment is expected at the time of the class via cash, check or PayPal.

FMI:  Call or text Linda at 207.740.2247.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Our Support Groups

Survivors of Suicide Loss Support Group: Tuesday evenings, 6:00-7:30 pm
Suicidal Thoughts Support Group: Saturday evenings, 6:00-7:30 pm

The coffee pot is always on.  The atmosphere is low key, comfortable and confidential.

Whether you share or not, is your choice, but it does help to hear the experiences of others.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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A Message to Members of Our Grief Support MeetUp Group

The following is the email I sent out to the nearly 50 members of our MeetUp group this morning… it seemed appropriate to repost here.

Hello to everyone,

I hope you’re doing okay…. some days, “okay” is the best we can be, right?

The last couple of days were rough for me.  Wednesday would have been our 10th wedding anniversary, and yesterday would have been John’s 62nd birthday.  I started out each day with a couple of hours of work, and a volunteer meeting for a board I sit on, but although I had a pretty extensive To Do list, I didn’t have anything outside the house scheduled for the rest of those two days.  Probably needless to say, I didn’t get much done.  I was lethargic and sad and the brain fog settled in pretty heavily.

September of last year was the first wedding anniversary I’d spent without John.  However, I was in Los Angeles for the month, with my daughter, son-in-law and their brand-new baby… my first biological grandchild. I was busy, and although the days hit, I didn’t have much time to mourn.

This year, I thought it might be easier as John has been gone almost two years (he suicided on October 21st, 2016).  It was not easier.

I miss him terribly.  Every single day.  Yet, I’m still surprised at the intensity of the grief, even after two years.  Despite years of training and work in the mental health field, and having supported others after a suicide, I thought I had a good understanding of the dynamics.

Nope… no one can truly understand until you’ve lived it.  And no one else can understand how that grief can continue to affect a survivor even years later.

Anyway, I have a few questions for group members:

1) Are you actually getting my emails?  Please let me know if you are.

2) This site is visually very boring, and although I have a ton of experience with social media, I can’t figure out how give it a more appealing look.  Anyone out there with ideas?

3) Is anyone willing to pass out brochures, either at your work, local library, or some other location?

Thanks, and be okay.

Let me know if there’s anything I can do.

Will plan to see you next Tuesday evening.

Linda

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Happy Anniversary – I Love You

Today is our 10th wedding anniversary.  I have to celebrate it alone, though.

My great big strong brilliant talented wonderful husband killed himself almost two years ago.

So instead of laughing and loving and toasting more years to come, I am pushing back screams.  I can’t stop the tears, but I can stop the screams.

I couldn’t at first.  They would come howling out of me, from the very depth of my soul, ripping through my cells with a pain I thought I couldn’t bear, one that I thought surely would kill me, too.

But I’m still here.  And I miss him.  Oh how I miss him.

We got married on International Talk Like a Pirate Day.  The wedding itself was fairly traditional and took place on the lower level of our 1200 square foot deck, that hangs over a gully.

The reception… ah.  That was for Johnny.

I was of the opinion that if the wedding was for the wife, then the reception had to be for the husband.  And so it was… everyone dressed like pirates, with pirate decorations, pirate food (sausages and desserts soaked in alcohol), and even a pirate ship wedding cake.

It was, by far, the best wedding reception I have ever attended.

John was larger than life, and in the end he made certain that the diseases that were killing him didn’t do so with a wasting away of his life, by robbing him of his dignity more and more every day.  He had a fantasy of dying by the sword, and although it didn’t happen quite that way, he did make sure he left this world under his own control.  Even so, he took care to minimize the trauma it would cause me, because after all, I was the center of his universe, as he was mine.

There will be more, but this is all I can write at this time.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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The Lifeboat Room – A Safe Haven

Our new support group room, located at Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps, is almost finished!  There’s still more I want to do with it, but the space is completely usable now…. and it’s looking better all the time.   The atmosphere is warm and comfy, the coffee pot is usually on – and we always have cookies available!  (Who doesn’t love cookies?)

For several reasons I was thinking of calling it the John Kelly Snyder group room (Heritage Books & Maps was John’s baby, and tragically, the impetus for this support group space was John’s suicide almost two years ago), but Johnny didn’t do “touchy feely” groups.

So a much better thought is to call it The Lifeboat Room. That would honor John, and reference his decades of work installing and repairing survival systems on Navy ships – and would be appropriate for the plans for the space.

I hope to eventually hang the artwork, poetry, collages, etc that group members create as part of their healing process.

As I was thinking about the room’s name and the work John did as a subcontractor for the Navy – work he was considered extraordinarily good at, and which he loved – it brought to mind something that always bothered me, and which I’ve probably mentioned at some point in one of my blogs.  Despite his pride in his work, Johnny believed that my work in mental health was more important than his, because he “helped build killing machines” (Navy ships) and I “helped save lives”.

Yet, we were both in the business of developing and maintaining survival systems…. me, on a more individual level, and John, for thousands of sailors.

In fact, when the U.S.S. Cole was bombed on 12 October 2000, John was instrumental in helping the sailors on that ship repair those survival systems, via a satellite relay.  One of the proudest moments of his life was when he later ran into two sailors who praised and thanked him for his efforts in helping them through the process of making those repairs from half way across the world.

No one of course knew that 16 years and just over a week later, John himself would be dead from an enemy he could not vanquish.

The Lifeboat Room.

It’s fitting.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Support Groups

Grief Support Group Tuesday evenings.
Suicidal Thoughts Support Group Saturday evenings.

Both groups are free, although any amount of donation would be greatly appreciated, to help keep the groups going.

FMI:  Call or text Linda at 207.740.2247.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

**************************************

We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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