Planning Meeting for Suicide Prevention Drop-In Center, Nov 5

A reminder that a planning meeting to develop a suicide prevention drop-in center is scheduled for tomorrow (Monday, November 5) from 5:30-7:30 at Heritage Collectibles, where The Grief Warrior Project support group meets. Enter 9 Park Street, Lewiston into your GPS.

Park anywhere on the street; there’s no need to feed the meters after 5:00.

Please forgive the condition of the shop… I recently got in around 5,000 books and haven’t been able to get them all organized yet.  However, the group room is comfortable and available!

And there’ll be coffee and other beverages available, as well as snacks (hummus, crackers, cookies, leftover Halloween candy, etc!).

Thank you!
Linda

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Yes, I’d Do It Again

I just read the saddest but one of the most beautiful expressions of love I’ve ever seen.  I don’t have permission to post it here so will offer a quick summary:

At barely 21 years old, this young soul’s husband shot himself to death in her arms as she begged him not to.  She has spent the past two decades dealing with the post-traumatic stress caused by this horrible, devastating incident.

Yet, she says she would do it all over again even if she knew how it would turn out.

The further away from my husband’s death I get, the more aware I am of the toll the pain, fear and denial of John’s hellish world were taking on me.  And the more aware I am of the daily nightmare he was living with, and how hard he worked to fight that pain and fear, to deny their existence and to keep anyone else from knowing how bad it was… even those times when we were angry with him for behaviors we didn’t understand, because he couldn’t explain them.

Her story moved me to tears, because it was also my story. And all I could think of in response was to write:

“Oh sweetie… I’ve said the same thing. My Johnny’s living hell made our lives difficult at times, but if he were to walk through that door right now, I’d do it all over again… even if I knew the outcome would be the same.

Songs of peace and healing to you.”

Songs of peace and healing to all of us.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Creating a Drop-In Center… Can You Help?

Do you have time to…

a) Attend a planning meeting on Monday, November 5th at 5:30, to help turn The Grief Warrior Project drop-in center into a reality – and/or –
b) Attend regular meetings after that – and/or –
b) Drop off brochures to organizations, emergency rooms, police departments, social work offices, and so forth – and/or –
c) Post information on social media regarding The Grief Warrior Project – and/or –
d) Hang out at the Grief Warrior Project offices (which are also the site of Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps), to be available for anyone who just needs a safe place to be – and/or –
e) Any other ideas?

Are you available Monday evening, November 5 at 5:30 for that planning meeting?

Quick Background Info:

Tomorrow, October 21st, 2018, will mark two years since my beloved husband took his own life.  I won’t get into the whys here – those have been described in other posts.

For nearly that long I have wanted to develop a suicide prevention drop-in center, offering support groups, activities to help people feel valued, or at least, not alone – and just a safe place to hang out.

But I’ve had to work, and I’ve been working a LOT of hours to stabilize my finances after John died.

The goal is still there… I haven’t wavered on that.

I have the space available – a 600+sf retail and office area in downtown Lewiston that houses the greatly downsized Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps, and includes a small group room as well as a conference room.  (If I had the funds, I could expand back into our old space which is now vacant again… I just don’t have the money for that.)

Anyway, it’s like a chicken or the egg thing… We can’t be helpful to people if we don’t have regular hours, but I haven’t been able to offer regular hours because I had been working what amounted to more than two full-time jobs each week.

In August, I left my job in the social work field in order to regroup, but I have to go back to work soon.  At that time, it will once again become difficult to maintain a steady schedule.

So right now while I have more time available than usual, I really want to start getting this off the ground.

The horrors of suicide have been on everyone’s minds lately… and on mine, constantly.

Please let me know if you can attend a planning meeting on Monday, November 5th at 5:30.

Thanks,
Linda

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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No Joking Matter

I just noticed a Facebook friend – someone I know in real life, who is a kind, compassionate, caring person – who was complaining about a number of legitimately painful bodily aches and insults.

But this person had to end the complaint with “Just shoot me, please”.

I know this person didn’t mean anything by it, and would be horrified to realize its impact, but jeeeezzzzz.  When suicide is such a national crisis that you can’t avoid hearing about it (and my own husband was in so much physical pain that he would be in tears at times), I just don’t understand how people can continue to make jokes, minimizing the very real dangers of untreated pain and depression.

We don’t joke about cancer or diabetes or crippling arthritis.  Why is it okay to joke about suicide?

Oh… that’s right.  It’s not.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Recent Articles Reposted on Our Facebook Group

The more we can learn about suicide and the factors that lead to attempts and completions, the more likely we will be to save lives – lives such as that of the most important man in the world to me, my husband, John Snyder.

I’ve periodically posted such articles and blogs on our Facebook group, “The [Grief] Warrior Project“, rather than including them on this website.

Please ask to join that group, and invite your friends to join.

The group is pretty small right now and I’d like to grow it as a way of providing information about suicide, depression & anxiety, and hopelessness, as well as letting people know about the various support groups and classes we’re offering while working on creating the drop-in center that I’ve slowly been working on since John died almost two years ago.

As you can see, my dogs hang out with me in The Lifeboat Room at times.

Anyway, here are some of the most recent blogs published on that group.  I would love it if you were to post relevant articles or initiate topics of conversation, or even just “Like” what we’ve posted.  Thanks!

  1. 5 Common Myths about Suicide Debunked
  2. When You Forget They’re Dead
  3. A Brief Guide to Unprocessed Childhood Toxic Shame
  4. 9 Things That Will Help You Relax
  5. Update: Suicide Prevention Week Follow-Up

I’ll try to do a weekly compilation of the outside articles in case you’ve missed them.

Songs of peace, health and wellness to you all.

Linda

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Teens: Dealing with Stress / Anxiety – Beginning October 03, 2018

Someone asked recently if we would be doing workshops on anxiety for teens.  It was a great question, especially given the world we live in today, and how it affects our impressionable youth population.

Anxiety can lead to a host of problems from sleep disturbances, social changes, poor school performance and physical health issues, among others.  Learning how to handle anxiety early will, of course, lead to better outcomes for the future.

Our anxiety / stress management classes are not therapy groups.  They are a time to discuss how anxiety affects our lives and practice some techniques for managing our feelings, while getting support from others who are coping with similar feelings.

There is a $15.00 fee per class to cover the cost of materials and help support The Grief Warrior Project. Payment is expected at the time of the class via cash, check or PayPal.

FMI:  Call or text Linda at 207.740.2247.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Our Support Groups

Survivors of Suicide Support Group:  Tuesday evenings, 6:00-7:30pm

Suicidal Thoughts Support Group: Saturday evenings, 6:00-7:30 pm

The coffee pot is always on.  The atmosphere is low key, comfortable and confidential.

Whether you share or not, is your choice, but it does help to hear the experiences of others.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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