The Reality Is That You Will Grieve Forever…

The reality is that you will grieve forever.

You will not “get over” the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it.

You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered.

You will be whole again but you will never be the same.

Nor should you be the same nor should you want to.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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This Is Not How the Story Is Going To End

At any given moment you have the power to say  This is NOT how the story is going to end.

Oh how I love this.  But how do we help those in deep pain to love it, too?

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Costumes of Identity

This deserves much more than a simple reposting, and at some point I will explore it further.  But for now, I think it’s an important enough message as it stands, to not have to wait for whatever poor words I can find to add to it.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Be A Light

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Expanded Holiday Hours at the Bookstore That Supports The Grief Warrior Project

Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps is the antiques shop & used bookstore that John and I started two years before he suicided.  It was a dream of his, to have a little shop where he could research cool items, read great books, and talk to customers about the many, many topics he was an expert in … or at least more than passably familiar with.

It’s been really tough keeping the shop going without him.  It doesn’t make enough money for me to run it full time; nor can I afford to hire anyone.  But it was Johnny’s dream, and I have this overwhelming, continuing need to honor that dream.

Besides, the shop has a classroom that I’ve named The Lifeboat Room, which is where we hold grief-related support groups, and is a place for those feeling stressed by the world to sit for a while in a calm environment.  And, everything sold at the shop (or at our booth in Oxford at the Undercover Antique Mall) goes to support The Grief Warrior Project, to help us keep our doors open.

Your purchase is critical in helping to make that happen.  (Check out the website at https://www.heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, or find us on Facebook and Twitter.)

For the next few weeks (during the holiday season), Heritage Collectibles will have expanded hours!

We’ll be open most Tuesdays through Saturdays from 1:00-6:00, and occasional Sundays.  Or, we can be open by appointment (call Linda at 207-740-2247).

As of right now, we do know we’ll be closed on Thursday, November 29th, as I have to be out of town during the mid-day, and have an event to attend in the late afternoon.

The coffee pot is always on!  And we have cookies!

Come on in for the ambiance, conversation, or just to get away from it all.  We have a comfy classroom/group room where you can escape for a while… (As you can see, the dogs are often in attendance, as well.)

You can also find vintage and antique items at Heritage Collectibles’ booth at the Undercover Antique Mall in Oxford, Maine!  They’re open every day from 9:00 am – 5:00 pm.

All sales, after expenses, go to support The Grief Warrior Project, a suicide prevention drop-in center in development.  The Grief Warrior Project‘s support group room is located at Heritage Collectibles.  FMI: Linda, 207 / 740-2247.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Planning Meeting for Suicide Prevention Drop-In Center, Nov 5

A reminder that a planning meeting to develop a suicide prevention drop-in center is scheduled for tomorrow (Monday, November 5) from 5:30-7:30 at Heritage Collectibles, where The Grief Warrior Project support group meets. Enter 9 Park Street, Lewiston into your GPS.

Park anywhere on the street; there’s no need to feed the meters after 5:00.

Please forgive the condition of the shop… I recently got in around 5,000 books and haven’t been able to get them all organized yet.  However, the group room is comfortable and available!

And there’ll be coffee and other beverages available, as well as snacks (hummus, crackers, cookies, leftover Halloween candy, etc!).

Thank you!
Linda

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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Yes, I’d Do It Again

I just read the saddest but one of the most beautiful expressions of love I’ve ever seen.  I don’t have permission to post it here so will offer a quick summary:

At barely 21 years old, this young soul’s husband shot himself to death in her arms as she begged him not to.  She has spent the past two decades dealing with the post-traumatic stress caused by this horrible, devastating incident.

Yet, she says she would do it all over again even if she knew how it would turn out.

The further away from my husband’s death I get, the more aware I am of the toll the pain, fear and denial of John’s hellish world were taking on me.  And the more aware I am of the daily nightmare he was living with, and how hard he worked to fight that pain and fear, to deny their existence and to keep anyone else from knowing how bad it was… even those times when we were angry with him for behaviors we didn’t understand, because he couldn’t explain them.

Her story moved me to tears, because it was also my story. And all I could think of in response was to write:

“Oh sweetie… I’ve said the same thing. My Johnny’s living hell made our lives difficult at times, but if he were to walk through that door right now, I’d do it all over again… even if I knew the outcome would be the same.

Songs of peace and healing to you.”

Songs of peace and healing to all of us.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

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