One of the Most Dangerous Memes I’ve Seen

The meme and comments below came from a Facebook group that’s supposedly for enlightened people.  The meme itself made me want to scream.  Some of the comments were completely ignorant.

XXXXXXXX  This is on point. People seem to forget you’re not supposed to be happy all the time. Life is hard. Figure out what makes it worth it.

AAAAAAAA Well, life is supposed to be fun, and easy!
If it’s hard, it’s because we’re doing something that makes it so, and then we have to find our way to how it becomes easy instead.

XXXXXXXXX It’s not supposed to be fun and easy. Not as an adult anyway. Life is fundamentally difficult.

BBBBBBBB Life is not a game. When you are that depressed the brain does or goes to places that it takes something to snap out of it.

XXXXXXXXXX Or you surrender to the emotions because it’s part of the human experience and like everything else, it’ll pass.

Linda Snyder This is such horse shit. It’s not the way people with major depression who are living with suicidal thoughts think.

XXXXXXXXXXX Linda Snyder maybe that’s their problem. 🤷🏻‍♀️

CCCCCCC   XXXXXXXX When you get to this point you cannot control how you think or feel anymore. At all. If you could, it wouldn’t be severe depression. That’s how mental illness works. It’s like somethjg takes you over, and it almost feels like you have emotions that don’t even belong to you. Severe depression, when it is at this level, has a pretty heavy layer of delusion. By the time you get to the suicide part, it is bordering on psychosis, and in my opinion, it’s already there. Other wise, they wouldn’t be considering dying in the first place, since that’s obviously not even close to rational or a normal thing to be thinking or doing.

DDDDDDDDD You cannot surrender to those emotions… They are not normal emotions. They are far past that. Nothing is real at that point. Surrendering to them, would be following through with the suicide.

EEEEEEEEE  “Maybe that’s their problem.” This is the entirety of the conversation, and unfortunately it’s everyone’s problem once it affects or touches your life in some prevalent way. I’m so grateful you have not had to experience true major depression or the loss of someone close to you due to them dying by suicide. That said, empathy is a tool that we all need in our tool belt in order to be able to find peace and make real connections. I hope you one day can understand how much pain someone must be in to want it all to end. Someone in a suicidal state does not want to die, they simply want pain to end. It isn’t about surrendering or giving up, it’s about feeling too burdensome to others. May you never endure this pain or loss, but find the ability to see how others may struggle with it and acknowledge their problem and their

FFFFFFFF I feel this was likely written by somebody who has never experienced clinical depression or suicidal thoughts. It’s way more than just “feeling sad” or having “minor problems” in your life. You can’t just talk or think

GGGGGGGG  FFFFFF – Agrees lost a friend to suicide 2 yrs ago !

FFFFFFFF I’m sorry for your loss, Nettie. It seems more and more people are taking their lives in recent years and it is tragic.

HHHHHHHH Depressed person’s response, “Mario is not real life. When you beat the game the game ends. What if you played a harder video game where it was impossible to beat the first level and the game just sucked? Would you give up? What if everyone else loved the game, but you hated the game? Would you keep trying?” See this is exactly why the Mario analogy sucks.

IIIIIIIII  comparing a life altering decision to a computer game is truly beyond comprehension.. and to try to stop another from leaving this plane when it may be a necessity is NOT the right of any human being… sometimes we simply need a rest from our life in order to come back (reincarnate) and continue working on our lives… who has any right to judge another’s path ?????? NO ONE.

JJJJJJJJ    Wtf? Just 8 weeks ago a family member of the tender age of 19 took their life. This is not valid at all!!!!!

KKKKKKKKK Normally if you are at the point you are seriously considering suicide, “things are hard sometimes but they will get better, ” is not going to suffice. You are so depressed at that point, you can hardly bare to be awake. This is a really dumb meme. Doesn’t make any sense at all.

LLLLLLLLL  Beautiful explanations, examples:)

MMMMMMM  Most folks who are truly suicidal suddenly seem happy, alive and never mention a word about killing themself..then..bam..

NNNNNNNN Just need to have some mushrooms

OOOOOOOOO It is the reason I am an Attitudinal Therapist. Breaching fears with rational… brings us back and beyond

Linda Snyder Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States and the incidence is growing. Telling people that they just have to think “better” only makes matters worse, because they now have that failure to add to their extreme depression, trauma and sense of terrible shame.

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In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.

My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see.  I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.

The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1.  Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.

Fair winds and following seas, Husband.

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We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Grief Warrior Project off the ground.  You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/

Follow us on Twitter!  @WarriorProjME.

Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps.  All profits (after expenses) go to helping us help others.  You can find Heritage Collectibles at  https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).

Beginning September 23, 2019, you will be able to call in for grief support from Linda Snyder, M.S.  The fee is $40 per phone hour (50 minutes), payable in advance via PayPal (use LSnyder@regroupbiz.com as the Pay To email address) with times available as follows:

Mondays – Fridays, 4:00 am and 5:00 am EST
Wednesdays, 3:00 pm, 4:00 pm, 5:00 pm and 6:00 pm EST
Fridays & Saturdays, 9:00 pm and 10:00 pm EST.

Just go to https://regroupbusinesssolutions.fullslate.com/ where you can sign up!  (It’s a bit confusing because there’s loads of writing to wade through, but if you go to the bottom left hand corner where it says “Online Scheduling” and click on the link that says “Grief Support Services”, it will take you to the calendar where you can choose an appointment time and sign up.

Talk to you soon!

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Despite decades of disbelief, I have come to realize that our loved ones are able to communicate with us through the life/death barrier.  My Johnny has proved this in ways that I can’t attribute to my own mind making things up… there have been complex coincidences and synchronicities, extraordinary happenings, and messages through others who could not possibly have any knowledge of the information they’ve passed on.  Truly mind-blowing stuff.  I don’t have a clue what I believe about life after death, but I know my husband loved me with everything he had, and that he still does.  Our wedding vows were “to death and beyond” and that has proved true for both of us.

I can’t tell you how it all works, or how you can get through to your own loved one, but if you’re interested, I can tell you of my experiences and my thoughts on this.

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