The following is the email I sent out to the nearly 50 members of our MeetUp group this morning… it seemed appropriate to repost here.
Hello to everyone,
I hope you’re doing okay…. some days, “okay” is the best we can be, right?
The last couple of days were rough for me. Wednesday would have been our 10th wedding anniversary, and yesterday would have been John’s 62nd birthday. I started out each day with a couple of hours of work, and a volunteer meeting for a board I sit on, but although I had a pretty extensive To Do list, I didn’t have anything outside the house scheduled for the rest of those two days. Probably needless to say, I didn’t get much done. I was lethargic and sad and the brain fog settled in pretty heavily.
September of last year was the first wedding anniversary I’d spent without John. However, I was in Los Angeles for the month, with my daughter, son-in-law and their brand-new baby… my first biological grandchild. I was busy, and although the days hit, I didn’t have much time to mourn.
This year, I thought it might be easier as John has been gone almost two years (he suicided on October 21st, 2016). It was not easier.
I miss him terribly. Every single day. Yet, I’m still surprised at the intensity of the grief, even after two years. Despite years of training and work in the mental health field, and having supported others after a suicide, I thought I had a good understanding of the dynamics.
Nope… no one can truly understand until you’ve lived it. And no one else can understand how that grief can continue to affect a survivor even years later.
Anyway, I have a few questions for group members:
1) Are you actually getting my emails? Please let me know if you are.
2) This site is visually very boring, and although I have a ton of experience with social media, I can’t figure out how give it a more appealing look. Anyone out there with ideas?
3) Is anyone willing to pass out brochures, either at your work, local library, or some other location?
Thanks, and be okay.
Let me know if there’s anything I can do.
Will plan to see you next Tuesday evening.
In memory of my beloved husband John Kelly Snyder… 20 Sept 1956 – 21 Oct 2016.
My Johnny was a true warrior, fighting demons no one else could see. I thought he was the strongest man in the world, and perhaps he was, but tragically, the demons got the better of him.
The name of this project is in no way intended to be reflective of, or piggy back off, Wounded Warriors which serves those military personnel wounded after September 11, 20o1. Like too many others, John was a warrior long before then.
Fair winds and following seas, Husband.
We now have a group on Facebook to help find resources, support and ideas for getting The Warrior Project off the ground. You can find us there at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewarriorproject/
Follow us on Twitter! @WarriorProjME.
We’re also on MeetUp; search Lewiston Grief Support MeetUp.
Help support The Grief Warrior Project by making purchases from Heritage Collectibles, Books & Maps. All profits (after expenses) go to helping keep our doors open. You can find Heritage Collectibles at https://heritagecollectiblesmaine.com, on Facebook (both a group and a page) and on Twitter (HeritageGifts).